It has been often pointed out that if someone is sad, the very act of that person smiling can help cheer up him or her. When other people see you smile, they often smile back. This makes us feel welcome and an important part of the community or workplace, building us up and boosting our self-confidence. The reciprocal nature of these actions helps everyone, including us. A rising tide lifts all ships, as they say. This is why it is so important that we remember to build up others in our daily lives.
Here are some tips that you can put into practice at work or in your social life:
1. Be Encouraging In Your Criticism
Remember that people benefit more from positive compliments than from negative criticism, so when you need to point out flaws remember to highlight the good points. Lead with what people are doing right before you concentrate on what they are doing wrong. This lets people know that they are appreciated and making important contributions. Also, point out that mistakes are always made and should be used as learning opportunities. The point is to turn someone’s negative situation into a positive experience.
2. Keep Your Own Ego In Check
Successful people praise others before themselves. Remember to give credit to those around you who have influenced or helped you in your daily life. Making everyone feel a part of the accomplishment makes them feel good, and in turn, makes them appreciate you more. Staying humble is also an important part of the equation. Never, brag or make noise about your own accomplishments. It is undignified. The people you brag to see that it is only a need for praise from others and exposes your own insecurity.
3. Never Gossip
Gossip always manages to get back to the people that are being gossiped about. No one likes it when people talk behind their back, especially if it concerns one’s own faults or shortcomings. Criticizing someone in your workplace or social circle to others does nothing to solve the problem or help that person. It is a pointless activity that will only earn you distrust of not only the person you are gossiping about, but also the people who you are gossiping to. While people may listen to you, they will be more reluctant to trust you with information in the future. One key to building confidence is to feel secure and trusting in your day-to-day relationships, and that security breaks down when their actions are criticized without their knowledge.
Complimenting people is one of the best ways to boost their confidence. Even if the compliment does not come from you personally, you can pass on the compliments of others to that person. People want to know when something they do is appreciated, and passing on a compliment reflects well not only the originator of the comment, but on you as the messenger. Even small compliments such as acknowledging something funny someone said, or liking what they are wearing, can make a difference in their day.